How to Become a Financial Dominatrix?

I have been practicing findom for 15 years. My biggest stand-alone drains have been $10-$12K drained from a sub in a single session. Check my findom stories on this site to read about those sessions.

While I do not provide consulting services, I am taking some time to share a lot of information here. In this article, I will try to highlight the most important aspects of the practice, but the fact is it is only an overview and will not give you the full picture of how to become a Financial Dominatrix. The only way to learn things deeply is to practice findom; there is no other way.

So, what is findom? Findom is short for Financial Dominance; it is a relationship or one-time interaction in which a Domme takes control of a sub through his finances. 

I have read lots of articles about findom, but they seem to only look at findom from a limited perspective. They all write about how paypigs get off on financial abuse and moneyslaves that pay for shopping and bills and send large tributes.

But there is so much more to findom than that. Usually, a findom fantasy is connected to a sexual fantasy or trauma or phobia that transcends mere financial fetish.

So how does one find out the deeper aspects of the findom relationship? The only effective way is to analyze the sub’s brain. Initially this is difficult, but the more skilled you become, the faster you can do it. Once you can get deep inside a sub’s mind you can learn everything about what triggers his submissive response and arousal. The more you know about him, the more power you have over him and the more money you will drain from him.

It is all about developing an empathic connection with a sub, learning how to  sense your victims and knowing when to attack and when to back off for a while so as not to scare him away. When to deny and punish or when to reward and give him just a bit of what he wants. A prime rule, however is NEVER GIVE A SUB EVERYTHING HE WANTS – make him work hard for it and even after he has earned the reward – give him just a bit of it, like a treat to a dog.

Key Aspects of the Financial Dominatrix Experience

Clothing Fetishes.

Every sub has one or more clothing fetishes. The more different kinds of fetish-friendly, sexy clothes, and shoes you have in your closet, the faster and larger your audience will grow.

The most popular fetishes are:

Nylons (pantyhose and stockings), lingerie, short tight dresses, latex, leather, high heels, boots.

Audio-Visual Equipment.

The audio-visual quality of your content is important to make an impression on a sub. I have invested a lot of money in my equipment. Your photos, videos, and sound all must be crystal clear. The more a sub absorbs and like your content, the easier it will be to addict him to his experience with you.

Room design.

Make sure your room is well-designed and decorated. You are a Queen, so present yourself like a Queen.

Mindcontrol.

Learn different techniques to control a sub’s mind. I learned some of them from books and movies but mostly from my experience in testing my own techniques on my lab rabbits – slaves.

To learn how to control someone’s mind, you must first understand how he thinks, what his weaknesses are, and where they come from.

When you become skilled enough, you will be able to brainwash your subs into doing anything you want and push them as deep into your control as you want.

Confidence.

Be self-aware of your superiority and perfection. Do not compare yourself to others. Others do better only because they have been here longer than you have. Do not let others undermine your confidence by negative, critical posts.

Practice. Good things take time; great things take a little longer.

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How do you market yourself?

Keep abreast of the latest platforms in social media such as X (Twitter), Reddit, TikTok, and Instagram.

I mostly use X (Twitter); using more social media platforms would certainly be better, but posting on social media platforms is time-consuming. It becomes even more challenging when your audience grows and you are in non-stop sessions.

I try to post at least two daily tweets on X (Twitter), although this is not enough to grow your account; if you want to make it work, try to post 5 to 6 tweets daily.

Response

I always try to respond to my fans and subs who comment on my posts. Your engagement rate on social media with your followers is more important than the absolute number of followers you have, as it reflects how actively your followers interact with your content. Likes, comments, shares, and clicks demonstrate genuine interest. Social media algorithms favor content that receives higher engagement. When your posts resonate with your audience, platforms are more likely to show them to others.

Collaboration.

I prefer to collaborate with other Dommes rather than try compete with them. I have built reciprocal relationships with many, and we support each other by engaging on social media.

Remote Control

I often use remote control software to control a sub’s devices and bank accounts or just during a video session to take his money myself.

Teamviewer is my favorite software; it has lots of features to control a computer but it’s expensive.

I often use it from my iPhone to drain a slave when I am hanging out with my friends or traveling.

You can also use it to control Android remotely, although if your sub is using an iPhone, you will only be able to see his screen and not be able to control it.

Alternatively, you can use Anydesk; there is a free version, I am not sure how long it will be available, but it is relatively cheap to purchase the license.

Another software that I recently started using with one of my slaves is Spyrix. I use it to track his activity—the sites he browses on the net and his Location.

I have tried many keyloggers and other remote-control software, but they were all useless, and the features didn’t work.

The Best Platform

I prefer to use the platform Loyalfans. They have been in the market for 3 years and the number of their users grows rapidly. On my first day doing sessions on Loyalfans I made $3K.

A few months later, I was making $15K-$20 monthly. I noticed that the more you make on that site, the more exposure and traffic you get there, and that is how their algorithm works.

Recently, I made $8K just in one day on Loyalfans. Loyalfans also has many payment methods, and there is no limit on how much a new sub can spend in one day. I recently drained $9.5K from one sub in 20 minutes, and all the payments went through.

As the audience on that site grows, so does the competition. So, the sooner you start to build your audience there the more ahead of the game you will be.

You can also make money on Loyalfans by charging for text, audio, or video messages and selling content on that site, such as clips, photos, and MP3s.

Subscriptions are another way to make money on the platform. You can post exclusive content for your subscribers and stream video sessions. I do not charge much for a subscription, I use it to filter out freeloaders when I stream a free video session. If a sub has paid for the subscription, that usually means he is serious about serving me, and I allow him to talk for me for a minute or two in the video chat to develop a connection; if he wants more of my attention, he must send a worthy tribute.

I make the most money by doing pay-per-minute, 1-on-1 video calls on Loyalfans. I realized that you can drain from a slave much more if he can see you and hear your voice.

If a sub doesn’t have privacy and can’t do a video call, then sending him locked video messages is another option to drain him financially. I even do that with my subs when I am out with my man or girlfriends in a restaurant, bar, or club. I love making my slaves pay for my dinner and drinks.

How much money can be made doing findom?

According to statistics, most cam girls and Dommes make $2,000 monthly on average.

However, if you make an effort, you can be in the top 5% of earners and make $10,000 monthly.

1% of cam models and Dommes make $20,000-$100,000 monthly, although it does take many years to build your audience and become skilled enough to make that much.

If you want to succeed, you should focus on becoming professional, not making easy money. If you fall in love with what you do, your hard work will become easy, and the money will flow.

You can’t be good at something you don’t love or feel passionate about.

If this sounds like something you could love, sign up with Loyalfans and unleash your potential.